Mom has not left the hospital since Wednesday night. Looking back I am so glad I challenged the ER Doctors. Turns out her condition is not actually what triggered this new problem. She has a blocked bowel. Yes, a blocked pooper. "You mean to tell me after this whole journey and horrible kidney diagnosis, she could die from a blocked bowel?". Today is shitty. Or in Mom's case not shitty.
My brother just called. Mom has not been able to eat since Tuesday. Mom is getting an IV. So for now, she is getting nutrition. They also are looking at a cyst on her ovary. This cyst has been there for a while. It is only being looked at closer because I called Mom's new doctor. This new doctor is a specialist in Palliative Care and Geriatrics Care. Turns out she shares offices with the Doctor who helped us "stop chasing magic fairy dust". She has been more helpful and definitive in the last 24 hours then the answers we have received from multiple specialists for the past year. And get this people. She told my brother today "SHE HAS DEMENTIA". So screw you Mr. "Apple. Hammer. Penny!"
I digress. Back to Mom. If we can not get her bowel unblocked with non evasive procedures then Mom will only have an option for surgery. And that option is bleak. Mom most likely will not be able to make it through surgery. So my brother (the doctor) told me to not cancel plans this weekend. He said go to Tucson as scheduled, show Chase UofA, enjoy the big game because Mom is not going anywhere this weekend. She can survive on the IV. We will meet Monday and weigh the next steps.
Mom last night told me, "Go have fun. Don't come here every day. Come every other. You are busy. You have lots to do. Your family needs you". What a decision. Do I go and have fun and take the time to enjoy this trip with the boys since it sounds like I might not get a fun break anytime soon? Or do I sit by Mom's bedside and get as much together time as I can since our time together is like liquid gold? Did I say TODAY IS SHITTY?